Thursday, December 9, 2010

Especially Chatty Church Member.

Last Saturday London and I went to participate in making over a 1000 pies for the food bank from our church. It was really fun and exciting to participate. Everything was organized amazingly well and so it went really quick.
While there President George came up to me and asked if I would work with the Mayor of Medicine Hat. I was thrilled he was one of the nicest guys, very easy to talk to and we had a great time together. He has been very successful in real estate, Worked for the Prime minister as a RCMP is from Quebec and has 14 brothers and sisters. We chatted and had a great time. He talked as much as me and occasionally people around us joined in. Well the Press showed up for a photo-op of course and they interviewed him and then asked to interview me for a minute. So I said my two bits and below are the results.
Start at the "Of Course." My question is should I be insulted? They called me an especially Chatty Church member!? I was really shocked at first. Don't you think that is an odd thing to say? I haven't made up my mind but I definitely am embarrassed. As my close blog friends I need you to give your HONEST feedback. Should I hunt the journalist down or laugh and embrace my embarrassment.
London keeps calling me to CHAT! Sean was asked to MC the Christmas Party here and stated at the beginning that he was surprised to be asked he thought they would ask and especially chatty church member! I don 't know if I will live it down!
Am I Especially Chatty...would you want that witten in the paper about you with your full name?

18 comments:

All good things said...

Eee-ouch! Not a very flattering comment! Seems to me that they (the writer) doesn't have a very positive experience with church members. Had you been less "chatty" they would have commented on the morose volunteer, who wasn't in the spirit. It doesn't really matter. I find you congenial, and easy to talk to. I am sure you were a good representative of the church. I would focus on the good that was done, instead of the negativity brought on by the writer. Great job. Besides, I would have loved to work with you! :)

Andrew said...

It is up to you to decide if you feel the comment does not accurately describe your personality. It was written by a reporter, who has a subjective point of view. For the reporter, maybe you are especially chatty.

As for having small comments being made by your loved ones, that is part of the territory. If people you hardly know start to use it as a method of describing you then I would say you have an issue.

I would not worry about it too much. I was once described as a "German machine gun" at a party. I had been monopolizing a conversation for all of 5 minutes. It is just the perception of others which sometimes people will agree with it and sometimes they won't.

If this sort of thing happens often, then maybe its time to take a step back and reign in your personality (been there myself). People who have strong interpersonal skills and are able to interact with others in situations when others feel nervous in are helpful. We can get things started when others are unable to. Sometimes, we go into overdrive though, its a process of learning when to be 100% and sometimes maybe just 75%. Look at the article and decide of the author was trying to be malicious or not. You could always ask for a retraction of some sort.

"Chatty" and "friendly" are very close ;)

- Andrew

Stephanie said...

I don't think it is a particularily "rude" or "inconsiderate" comment BUT if it were me I would think... geesh that is the best you could come up with?! There is so much more to you than "chatty-ness" so I think I would just be a bit bummed that that is how they perceived me OR that that was the extent of this reporters vocabulary. Seriously.. when I think Kimara White, chatty is NOT the first thing that comes to mind!
But like Andrew said, you choose how you want to take it.. it wasn't negative. Personally I could have wrote something MUCH better ;) hehe

Anonymous said...

I don't think you have to worry. If it was a Mayor comment, he probably was making a small joke about someone who is able to keep up with him. Same sort of thing as someone saying "you should go into politics"
Write into Ticked off and tickled pink. State that you were happy to work with and visit with the mayor and that your ongoing conversation is what kept him going to exceed his limit. Add you are ticked off with the reporter who could only come up with "chatty" instead of enthusiastic and encouraging.
This is from Susanne :)

Joanne said...

I'm sure they could have been nicer BUT what an honor to be chosen to hob nob with the mayor AND I say EMBRACE it girlfriend. you were in the paper! and positive pr for the church. you are just our favourite "especially chatty missionary! LOL

Kathy T. said...

I loved it! I think it's totally positive! Don't be offended - you have a gift to make people feel comfortable and engage them in conversation - you don't know how many people I know wish they could do this. You go sister!

Kristen said...

Don't let yourself be bummed about it! Some people have no tact or don't realize that what they have said might bother someone else. I agree with Stephanie, it's not the first thing that I would think of. I think it's a good thing to be able to hold your own in a conversation. Colby and I were just chatting last night about how hard it is for us to be able to take part in discussions and talk to others we don't know. I think you should see it as a gift...and not worry about tactless reporters. You are friendly and make people feel at ease. There is nothing negative about your chattiness! Sheesh...it makes me mad when people do stuff like that!

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Anonymous said...

Well, I suppose you could be upset over it, but really, I've been called much worse by much better over the years so I think I would let it roll off me like water off a duck's back. Maybe you reminded him of someone, or maybe he just hasn't learned to use his words yet. Who knows. All I know is this. If you let it affect you in a negative way, then he wins. There is nothing wrong with being chatty, for starters, and, like Andrew pointed out, it was the subjective view of one reporter. Don't let it bother you hun, those who know you are the ones who matter, and everyone who knows you loves you the way you are. And no, you probably won't ever live it down. LOL.

-Robin

Mindy said...

I, too, think the reporter is a bit stunned! You are fun to be around and easy to talk to, but "chatty" isn't a word I would use to describe you. I agree with the comment that if you weren't much of a talker, there would be some sort of comment on that! You are awesome! Stick with that comment!

rosecoloredglasses said...

well here is what i think...i beleive you are chatty...but most of all...i beleive when you do "chat" you have "something" to say....which is something people want to hear...i love our chats...and miss them sooooo much....what a lucky man to have my kimara to chat to while baking pies....you obviously made an impression on him,,,and i beleive it was a good one...otherwise he would have never revealed any information of himself to you....your a great chatter.....and your chats mean the world to me...luv you my friend:)

Phil Karza said...

Nope - wouldn't be the least bit upset. Imagine if you were referred to as a grumpy bum instead of chatty. I think you'd take the latter!!! Phil

Randa said...

Im going to 'here here' to a bunch of the comments. Embrace 'chatty' skills. They are extremely useful. Revel in being mentioned by name in the paper. Mayor clearly appreciated your skills in conversation. Feel sorry for reporter's less fantastic vocabulary. Curtsy every time someone calls you chatty - it will be more fun =)

Lisa C said...

I've been wondering if this reporter had some preconceived notions about religious groups or the lds church in particular - maybe he was expecting conservative, austere, pious or holy-than-thou? (look at those vocab skills - maybe I should offer to take his job off his hands?)
I like chatty better (but ya, that "especially" in there is a little... backwards.)

Eva Aurora said...

Ha ha ha! Please. When I last saw you, lo, these umpteen years ago, you didn't ever strike me as being "chatty." What you said had substance and you didn't talk anyone's ear off. When you find someone with whom you have a lot in common or you're feeling gregarious, I suppose a one-time observer may generalize that into you being always that way.

Anonymous said...

Well chatty church member lol (just joking). I would take that as a compliment. You have a gift to draw people around you to hear your stories. I love listening to you talking.

I too have had comments on my talking ability. lol Must be a family trait hum Kim. lol Love you.

Joni R. said...

I have been called chatty and at first was insulted. Then the lady that said I was chatty told me she meant I had the gift of gab and an outgoing personality. Dr. Drew Pinsky called someone chatty which means they had an outgoing, friendly and personable. So don't be concerned.

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